You could think you’re being available, insightful, witty, or profound, but you’re actually ruining your opportunities for the 2nd date
Yes, she’s smart, funny, single and attractive. You’re feeling that it is time, 5 minutes in to the date, to express a thing that the rational part of one’s mind is not so certain about.
Really, stop making terms. You wish to be noticed. You’ve had some alcohol. You get trying to casually point out your bank account or exercise routine. You don’t succeed because that approach never ever succeeds.
“You fear she won’t understand how great you might be her repeatedly,” says Ann Demarais, Ph.D., psychologist and co-author of First Impressions: What You Don’t Know About How Others See You unless you tell. “But you then become self-focused, while the pure nerves make you less articulate and thoughtful than you tend to be.”